It doesn't matter if you want more money, increased health, a better body, better quality relationships, or you desire to create a meaningful partnership with someone, when you feel confident, you have the courage to make the choices to change any and every area of your life.
Confidence Matters and So Do You.
Successful People aren't born with confidence. They practice it. They make it a habit. They make the positive driving force of possibility a daily requirement, not a luxury.
If you want your dream life, then confidence isn't a luxury, it is a necessity for you to take control of your body, your business, your relationships, your parenting, and your life.
When you know you can....you can.
Don't let anyone stop you.
And please don't let your body and your secret, hidden, shameful feelings about your body, stop you.
6+ years ago I had one of my own personal wake up calls. As a brand new mom, with a red headed, freckled faced, blue eyed 2 month old boy, I woke up knowing that I had to make a change. Six weeks prior, my mother was visiting, my hard working, nose to the grindstone, get-it-done mother who raised 4 kids essentially on her own. We were sitting in the living room while I was nursing my brand new baby. My husband came home that day, two weeks after our son was born, and had announced that he had quit his 6 figure plus benefits job with no future job & no back up plan in site.
There is no back up plan when you are going for your dreams.
I went ghost white, I panicked, I got mad, and then I got frustrated. I was so confused!
I thought...that wasn't in the plan!
So as the weeks went by, I realized that I had to do something and I had to start to do it now.
On my son’s two month old birthday, I got out of bed ready to conquer the world. I didn’t know what I was going to do, I didn’t know how I was going to do it, but I knew. Determined and feeling rather enthusiastic, I decided to try on my skinny jeans. So here I am with my jeans half way up my thighs, swearing, in tears, with my new mom body, looking in the mirror and I started the all too familiar routine of judgment and self hatred of my body.
About five minutes of this non-productive, self-deprecating conversation with myself in the mirror had gone by and all of a sudden I looked over at my son and there he was on the floor staring at me with his giant beautiful being just beaming at me as if to say, “Mom, You are Beautiful!”
It was in that moment that I had my wake up call.
If I just spent 5 minutes missing out on the joy of living and the joy of receiving my son in all of his magnificence, what else have I spent the last 20 years of my life missing out on because I was so invested in judging and hating my body.
The statistics of body hatred and self hatred is astounding and somehow that has become the norm.
Only 4% of women worldwide consider themselves beautiful.
Over 51% of 9 year old girls are going on diets.
So 6+ years ago, on that fateful day in the mirror, I made a commitment to go on a year long No Judgment Diet. What came out of it was life changing. For 20 years I had struggled with my body image, self- esteem, and over all confidence with my appearance and I had no idea how much that vein of self hatred took me out of living. This year long no judgment diet changed my life so much that I thought, if it could change a midwestern girl, now single mom, who spent her life never thinking she was never good enough, never pretty enough, never sexy enough, and turn her into a confident, rocking entrepreneur who travels the world and changes lives, then what could this change for others who might have a similar story of not liking themselves?
Since then we have had hundreds of women and men experience drastic changes in every area of their lives. As you know, when you are judging your body, it doesn’t just impact your self esteem, it affects every area of your life and everyone around you.
We have seen miracles happen, marriages saved, single moms starting their own businesses, diabetics able to cut their medication in half, people who were never able to get a handle on their body and health able to start to have hope and understand their body and create a different relationship with themselves. Gratitude and Laughter heal the body and the planet, and to watch people get that back is truly an amazing experience to be a part of.
If you could get your life back, what would that create?
What would you wish for?
What impact would you like to make in the world?